For Ladies: 10 surprising tips on how to have better sex

Everybody wants to drive their partner wild in the bedroom, but men can be shy about vocalising what they really want during the act.

According to research, guys are keen to spice things up by trying different sex positions, dressing up and experimenting with sex toys, but they don’t always feel comfortable discussing what turns them on.

We spoke to sexual health and wellbeing expert Samantha Evans for advice on how ladies can unleash their inner sex kitten.

The sexpert, who co-owns online sex toy retailer Jo Divine, shared her handy pointers on how to please him so you both have the best sex of your lives.  

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1. Talk to each other

Open up a conversation about what makes you tick and what turns you on sexually. You may be pleasantly surprised about what your partner fantasises about.

Just talking about them with your partner can turn you on.

2. Stop worrying about your body

Men are attracted to the whole package so become more confident with your body. Loving the way you look will make you irresistible to your partner.

Being sexy isn’t always about being beautiful, but confident, so try wearing beautiful lingerie just for yourself.

Knowing you are wearing sexy knickers will give you a cheeky smile all day long.

3. Make the first move

Men love it when women make the first move, so initiate sex and take control. Take your time and set your own sexual pace to increase your own pleasure.

Making your partner wait will only fuel his sexual desire too. Tell him what you love him doing to you and how to make it feel even better. Ask him what he likes too.

4. Change it up

Make sex more fun by having it in other places, either inside or outside.

Have a steamy shower, soaping each other with perfumed soaps or oils. Try having sex in the morning to keep you smiling all day or arrange to meet for lunch to have a midday quickie.

Invest in a full-length mirror to enjoy watching all the action.

. Dress to impress

Experiment with dressing up to boost your sexual arousal. If a man in uniform turns you on, get your partner to dress up.

Why not meet your lover at the door dressed in a tight skirt and blouse with stockings and killer heels to get his juices flowing?

6. Read erotic fiction

Reading a few chapters from a short steamy erotic story will coax the first sparks of sexual desire in you and give you some ideas for your own sex life too. Try writing down your own erotic thoughts, you never know, you could be the next E.L. James.

7. Change position

Being on top is extremely pleasurable for many women and will excite your partner too. Using a vibrating cock ring will stimulate both of you or try a small bullet vibrator against your clitoris to achieve a mind-blowing orgasm.

Watching your man's facial expressions will let you know you're doing it right.

8. Use toys

Regular sex toy use has been shown to increase sexual experience and satisfaction, rather than be a threat to a relationship and can lead to more satisfying orgasms.

Many men love to watch their partner use a sex toy on themselves and allows her to show him exactly how and where she likes to be touched.

If you are unsure about using a sex toy, why not try a clitoral stimulator such or vibrating cock ring.

Many remote control couples' toys are great fun, allowing your man to be in control of your sexual pleasure at the touch of a button.

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9. Tie me up

Blindfolding your man or being tied up and blindfolded yourself, using only your sense of smell, touch, taste and hearing can be intensely sexually arousing and rather wicked.

Making your man beg for your touch or tantalising them with feather-like caresses will make them throb with desire and unleash your inner dominatrix.

10. Love lubricants

Using lubricant during sex can greatly increase both your sexual pleasure and that of your man and make sex last longer too.

Hormonal changes can affect the level of lubrication within the vagina so try organic lubricant to improve your sexual pleasure, heighten your sexual arousal and make sex feel more comfortable, pleasurable and simply better.